My Desire is for Him...My Desire is for him

A have an older female friend who I had a very poignant conversation with. She’s in her early 50’s very smart and attractive. Nice figure, beautiful face, long flowing hair. It’s like man, I’m in my 30’s and I wish I had it going on like her. Because of her beauty she has lots of different opportunities with men. But she’s made the wrong choices, and has been hurt because of them. She is strong in her Christian faith and worships God like no other woman I know. But I couldn’t believe what she told me, how delusional and jaded her hurt has made her. Her comment
“As long as I have God I don’t ever want another man in my life, I can stay single until I die”
I sat there with my classic blank stare. Then I responded “sweetie you were made for man, and the bible states that a woman’s desire shall be for her husband. I understand being hurt, and not wanting to be hurt, but wanting to live the rest of your days without comfort?”

She went on to talk about how her pastor feels that single women have the hand of God on their life more than married women. The topic came up because I was mentioning how I want to meet Mr. Right; she told me that I didn’t need a man in my life. I can spend the rest of my days just as I am. I don’t want to go further into that conversation because its heartbreaking to me that someone who has so much life left would let THEIR OWN bad decisions in the PAST shape what their future is, and furthermore would suggest to a woman with no kids in her 30’s, to NEVER want to get married…

Now before you go defending what she’s saying, let me say that I am not an advocate of chasing after men, hunting them down, and dragging them to the alter to force I Do’s from him. But I believe in being open to the right one when he comes along and putting the right vibes out there to get him. Then after you date him you tie him up, hook him to the back of your pick up, and hogtie him to a pew in the church forcing I Do’s 

I was validated in my thoughts when listening to Pastor Joel Olsten. He made a very moving point this morning. It is completely NORMAL to desire intimacy. It is a reflection of God’s desire to be intimate with us. Ladies…If you are single please don’t’ let ANYONE tell you that it’s wrong for you to want someone in your life. God made me to be caring, smart, wonderful, and splendid; did He not want to share that with anyone? Did He make me without wanting me to affect man whom I was made for?

The more realistic way of thinking should be that I don’t ever want another man in my life whose purpose is to destroy it. I want a man who wants and loves me, not someone who wants to emotionally and mentally rape and pillage me. I want he who He has purposed for me, not he who I chose out of loneliness.

On this Sunday, I want to encourage single women that it is okay to desire. You are a woman! Unless you are dead every part of you inside and out should desire intimacy. It’s how we channel and deal with that desire that often gets us in trouble!